Your Relationship Can’t Wait

It is that time where we spend our days working, shopping, cooking, cleaning, traveling, hosting, being a guest, and wish granting. It is a wonder we call it is the “Most wonderful time of the year.” It’s that time of year. Yes, ‘that’ time. Where the hustle and bustle takes over daily life. That time where we look at the “lists” everyone has made for us and try to make their “dreams come true.”

Often times during the holidays, many couples are struggling in their relationships and put on a “face” in front of family to disguise their problems. For many the holidays are a wake up call to the loss of the relationship we want to have, and a painful reminder of the relationship that we once cherished which has been lost to time. As my good therapist friend Holly posted in her last blog, “Most folks don’t realize this, but counseling is a bit of a seasonal endeavor.” I agree wholeheartedly with her.  While Holly talked of vacationing clients, and the tendency for her to question her own marketing and clinical skills, I find that holidays in November and December serve as the ultimate mask for couples. The holidays serve as a perfect distraction for couples to “wait and got the therapy” or to “start off fresh in the new year.”

As we head into the holidays, I strongly encourage you to take the time to sit back and take a strong inventory of your relationship. Is it full of the sizzle you want to have? Or is it more correct to say your relationship resembles a fizzle? Instead of waiting another day to address your concerns, I want to remind you that you deserve to have the best in your relationships, every day, and waiting is not going to make things “better.”     

I challenge you to take your relationship to the next level by starting to make changes in your life. Today, not after the holidays. 

1) Start with YOU: Many clients tell me that their relationships would be better miraculously if their partner would just “change.” While being able to make a partner change would be fantastic, there is no control you have over another person to make them change. The only power you possess to make change in the relationship is within yourself. I have fantastic news! If you start to make changes within yourself, your partner has no choice but to change along with you.

2) Be Realistic:  While we would all love to have changes occur overnight the reality is that change takes some time. Be gentle with yourself and your loved ones as you make decisions about the changes you want to make, and begin to make them.

3) Get Help:  Sometimes, with the best of intentions, we may not know what to do or how to do it. Admitting you need some help is not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of unique strength and dedication to achieving what you want for your relationship.

Magnificently Yours,

Dr. KaRae’  

Do you need some help to have a magnificent marriage? I would be delighted to help. Why wait? Turn up the heat in your love life, taking it from simmer to sizzle, and having a magnificent relationship. Schedule your own appointment http://drkarae.com/appointments/.

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